Lately
I’ve thought a lot of the phrase from Joni Mitchell’s “Big Yellow Taxi.” The refrain is, “Don't it always seem to go that you don't know what you've got
till it's gone?”
Every time I look at my swollen
thumb, that phrase runs through my mind. That’s the course of rheumatoid
arthritis; joint by joint it eats away cartilage and soon the bare bones are
rubbing against each other, grinding away. With this process, one’s abilities
are diminished, diminished, diminished until few remain.
Oh, I’ve learned many adaptations to
my disability. I use tools such as pliers, scissors, and jar openers for tasks
my hands used to do with ease. I’ve switched from one-handled saucepans and
skillets to ones with two handles. I use a pasta fork to pull clothes out of
the dryer. But there are some tasks, such as putting sheets on a bed, for which
there are no tools. For those things, I have to depend on others.
With each loss of ability I come to
appreciate what I had but have lost. I look at undamaged people with awe as
they skip up steps, lift heavy objects, use a keyboard, and much more. I admire
hands that can use nail clippers and aerosol sprays, hands that can reach into
the back of a shelf to retrieve objects.
Once, long before I developed this
autoimmune disease, my mother watched me pulling weeds in my flowerbed and
remarked, “Shirley Carol, you are going to ruin your hands.”
In the arrogance of strength and
vitality I retorted, “Mother, God gave me hands to use.” This warning haunts
me. Why didn’t I listen to my mother? I just didn’t know what I had. Now that
it’s gone, I do.
I still have good eyes, though, and
can appreciate Nature’s beauty, such as this geranium brightening the deck.
And I can admire the burgeoning
prairie coneflowers attracting great spangled fritillaries to their nectar. Two
fritillaries were feasting when I took this photo earlier this afternoon. I
hope you can spot them.
And don’t forget to appreciate your
hands and to treat them as the treasures they are.
Copyright 2015 by Shirley Domer