Saturday, January 10, 2015

Helping Others; Helping Ourselves

Our eldest grandson and his fiancé, who live in Tucson, wanted to buy a house. Recent law school graduates, they felt it would take years to accumulate enough money for a down payment. They put great effort into improving the house they rent, particularly the yard where they have created a productive garden. If only they could devote that energy to a place of their own.

For several years now Dennis has been promoting intergenerational living as an arrangement preferable to old folks moving to assisted living or retirement communities where they live only with other old people. Research, he says, indicates that old people thrive best when they live with people of all ages.

I happened to know that many houses in Tucson also have little houses called casitas. These are often used as short-term rentals, but they also are ideal for older relatives. Why not offer to provide our grandson with a down payment on a house with casita, a casita that Dennis and I could occupy during the bitterly cold winter months we currently endure in Kansas?

Dennis went for that idea and so did our grandson and his fiancé! We have spent several weeks putting together a deal to purchase a property with not one, but two, casitas. Dennis and I will have the use of both of them, one for cooking, eating, and sleeping and the other for recreational activities – reading, listening to music, sewing, and so forth. Not only will we have the company of our relatives, but we also will be able to volunteer at the elementary school nearby. In my decrepit condition I take great joy in watching kids run and play, and I would love to play grandma to some children the ages of my youngest grandchild, who lives so far away.

Dennis says we can’t live just for ourselves; we have to live for others. In the case of this house purchase, everyone benefits. Our grandson will have a home of his own and we will escape the difficult winter months, returning to Paradise for the gardening season.


Copyright 2015 by Shirley Domer

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